So I’m doing it, living out my dreams without the elusive ‘ideal’ body.
Although I have a vision of hitting the open road with my girls, wind in my never-knotting hair, instantly becoming tanned, thin and waif-like, with long limbs, a flat stomach and muscle definition. My children will never have melt downs; they will read endless books; and we will have family sing-a-longs and ‘I spy’ games for joyful hours on end.
I know well enough that wherever we go we take ‘us’ with us. ‘WE’ go wherever we go; we take our strengths and our challenges, confidences and doubts too. So I realise although I haven’t got the elusive ‘thigh gap’, and I will get the dreaded summer chaff, I’m still doing the lap … no gap! I just hope the camping locations are within the chaff-free walking zone (that’s where you can walk there and back without getting chaffed inner thighs!)
So this is what spurred this line of thinking …
A few months ago I was at the local pool with my girls. Harper was swimming laps with her swim club, and I was in the kiddy pool with Gem in my bikini. Gem announces she needs a wee, and I’m like, what kid doesn’t just do it in the pool? But I couldn’t not hear this, so out we get and off to the toilet! A woman sitting at the seats watching her daughter in the pools waves me over and says: ‘I wouldn’t usually say anything, but you look really lovely in your bathers.’ I thought, ohhh that’s nice … She follows this with: ‘I just wanted to tell you, as it’s so nice to see someone like you in bikinis, having fun with her daughter.’ She went on to say she found it inspiring, and that maybe she could do it too! It took all my strength not to stop her and say: ‘Let me rephrase that – you’re saying it’s nice to see a chubby mum, a woman carrying some weight in a bikini?’ But I didn’t. I took the comment as a compliment and thought of my little poolside chant when I’m feeling ‘not bikini ready’: ‘Love the skin you’re in and live the life you love’… And who knew? … It seems to inspire some women too!
This blog post, funny as it may be, has a serious side too. With the influence of media in all forms, the pressure to look a certain kind of ‘good’ are increasing and I’m going to try and keep it real! I’m going to do my lap, with no gap, and post pics that I hope inspire and encourage people to be comfortable with the skin they’re in – with or without gaps! Mind the gap, don’t mind the gap … just DO the lap!